(Before I begin, I actually did ask them how much they were willing to let me say in this.)
So, I've kind of been keeping up with my dA messages. And recently one of my friends on here sent me something about how her boyfriend of quite a bit had been cheating on her and all. She'd been kind of depressed of late because of it, and we were talking about all the things she wants and can't have, and how in all her life she could never find it. Someone who treats women well; a place where sex is not primary or secondary- rather it stands beside all the other bits of a relationship.
At the same time, our mutual friend had been telling me for a good amount of time how he'd been in love with her since they were kids and all he wanted was for her to notice that cry for help in his eyes when they would speak.
Well, I spent about forty minutes talking to her and slowly laying the pieces out in front of her. She wants a man who would cherish her lips just as much as the words that come out of them. He spent three days at her house comforting her after her mom passed away. She wants loyalty in a man. This poor, dry, bastard had women all over him, and kept away from each one for eleven fucking years while waiting for her to see him.
Needless to say, she got the picture. And succinctly told me she had something to do.
About ten minutes later I got a note saying a certain someone asked a certain someone else on a date, in tears. I'm happy.
The moral of the story? We spend so much time thinking of the things that we want in life. But no matter how much you know, or think you know, what you want, it doesn't matter until you take a moment to size up your surroundings, and see which path leads you to your desires.